This week has been a little overwhelming for me. I am starting to feel a little lost and alone here in Oklahoma. I know, how do you feel alone with a husband, 3 school kids, a todler, a baby , and a dog but it is possible. My husband is a very hard worker which translates into never home. Don't get me wrong, I am very proud of Craig and all that he has accomplished. It just means that I do a lot of things on my own. On my Birthday (a Saturday) he worked 8 hours. Normally that would be fine because I could go out to lunch with friends or something. Except I don't have any friends. Sorry, I am having myself a little pity party. this is supposed to be motivating but it is more of a downer. Ok. I will start over.
I have been in this place before where I needed to loose weight and I did it! I ended up running every morning with a friend and it worked out great. I would be the morning person standing on her front porch banging on the door until she came out to go run. She was the kind of person who always had something interesting to say. Our personalities were different but we blended just right. Through all of those morning runs I got into the best shape of my life. I was down to my pre baby weight but I was fit. It felt great. So if you can find the right buddy to work out with it makes it much easier to get it done.
Btw, congrats to Jess for loosing 4 pounds last week and being the biggest looser! Way to go! Everyone keep up the good work!
Oh Mya...I feel your pain. I'm sooooooo sorry. I know exactly how you feel! Hang in there; it will get better; I promise you that. A new place and no friends is so hard. I don't know your personality, but just stay focused and here's some thoughts of mine. I'm not trying to solve this, but here's some suggestions. Maybe you can invite some people from your ward over for a "play group" and that way you can get a "feel" for who you would like to pursue in friendships more. Then you can discuss MORE playgroups and girls night out!!!! I'm so sorry that you feel alone. That's not fun. Another suggestion is YOU need to have time away. I know that your husband works long hours and you've got your hands full with kiddos, but plan one night a week for either the 2 of you to get away or just YOU get away from the house while Craig is home. Even if it’s just for a couple of hours. It will do wonders for YOU!! I don't know if that is workable, but that way you have something to look forward too. I'm not implying you don't like being a mother; every aspect seems so overwhelming at times especially when you feel like you're doing it all by yourself. You need to take care of YOU first so then you can be a great wife, mother and friend. Hope your day gets better... :) :) :)
ReplyDeleteHang in there Mya!!!!! I have been a single mom for 7 1/2 years, and it is really hard. I agree with Elaine, being a mom is so overwhelming and sometimes I feel like running away! There are some moments when I feel thankful I have to work, because being a stay at home mom is really hard!!!! Of course I would rather not be a single mom forever, but can't really do anything about that :) Hopefully you find some great friends in your ward. Another perk about being LDS, you have an instant family. Hope everything gets better, and you can settle in. Hang in there, remember you are awesome, and your kids will look up to you for being such a great mom.
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